Raising Independent Children

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I’ve had to be a different kind of parent to my teens than I am to my youngest son who’s 5 years old. Circumstances were the main reason being that my husband and I were both working and at the time were pretty much on our own. As early as 6 years old my kids were self reliant and independent. Our work shifts didn’t make it possible for us to be there when they prepared for school.

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I would call them when it was time for them to get ready and they would take a bath on their own, dress up and feed themselves. I’d then call them to check that they were all okay and to give them the usual reminders of making sure they have all their things and locking the door. A large part of it working was that we were able to teach the kids how to fend for themselves. We also made sure that not too many people were aware of our situation. At the time we lived in a pretty secure gated area. We also worked closely with the school and made sure that the school service was accredited. I made a point of doing a background check and meeting the driver and backrider as they would be picking up the kids and dropping them off. Luckily, my schedule allowed me to get home right before they did.

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However, when we moved and also had a change in work schedules yet again, this time sometimes we wouldn’t be there when they left for school or got home. Trust had a lot to do with it working like it did, as well. We had to trust that we taught the children well, that they were capable of making decisions and arming them with basic knowledge so that they knew what to do in certain situations. Of course, we had constant communication but I admit I put alot on their shoulders at an early age.

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There are pros and cons to raising independent children. They can think for themselves, they can make decisions, they’re more confident but they can also be over confident and question you. As teenagers, it’s that time in their lives where they’re yearning for more freedom, responsibility and the chance to prove their worth. The teenage years are definitely the hardest so far. They’re not little kids anymore that you can get mad at and expect you to be followed at once. They ponder, they feel, they act on what they think is right. The hard part about it is that it may differ from what you’ve said or what you wanted to happen.

One of my biggest realizations is that I have to allow them to make mistakes. I can’t always save them from situations even if I know it’ll turn out bad. The one thing I also hold to firmly in my parenting is that they have to realize consequences and I think in this area I can be firmer than most parents. Why do I say that? Let’s say they lose their lunchbox because they irresponsibly misplaced it. If that lunchbox cost me Php100, that Php100 will be deducted from their baon. I could easily buy another one but they have to feel the impact of that loss and the importance of being more responsible. Almost a 100% it won’t happen again.

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With my youngest, I’m having a bit of a struggle developing independence like I did with my teens. The reason being that I’ma work at home mom and I’m here 24/7 for my little guy. I’ve been able to teach him how to be independent with life skills and such but putting it to the test and actually having to be on his own, I think he’s behind his brother and sister. Is that a bad thing? Not necessarily. I know I can still teach him how to be independent but he’ll probably test that on his own when he’s much older. He won’t have to prepare on his own in the mornings and go home to an empty house because I’ll be there.

The only thing that saddens me about having independent children is that I don’t feel as needed as I once did though that’s a good thing. I feel like I’m getting an early on-set of empty nest syndrome but that’s life and if I can let my children go off into the world confident and knowledgeable then’ll I’ll have done my job.

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Cordlife: Saving Precious Lives

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When I had my two older children cord blood banking was not yet available and when I had my youngest I wasn’t even aware of it.

With the many benefits that cord blood provides from treatment to therapy I had to share about Cordlife and the importance of cord blood banking.

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Your baby’s precious CORD blood can save his precious life

Quezon City, September 17, 2014 – As mothers, you will do anything for your child.  Even way before they are brought into this world, your instincts kick in and you tirelessly worry about your baby.  You want to learn everything there is to learn and more importantly, you want to protect them from anything and everything that can harm them be it the common cold or a fever; and if you had your way, you would gladly get sick for your child.  And your anxiety is not without reason, since there are many childhood diseases that can be harmful or even fatal to children.

Leukemia is perhaps the most common type of cancer compromising 47.8% of all childhood cancers1.  Hodgkin’s Disease1 or non-Hodgkin Lymphoma is the third childhood cancer comprising 9% of childhood cancer.  Aside from these types of cancers, certain brain disorders are also common in children. These include cerebral palsy and neuroblastoma.  Cerebral palsy severely impairs the development of the motor functions and afflicts 1-2 percent of the Philippine population2.  Neuroblastoma, on the other hand, causes the sufferer to lose the ability to empty the bladder, experience paralysis of the hips, feet, legs and uncontrolled movement.

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Research into the use of cord blood and cord lining stem cells have been ongoing since the 1980s and has shown promise of saving lives and treating life-threatening diseases.  More than 30,000 cord blood stem cell transplants3 have already been performed since 1988.

“The strides made in cord blood transplantation has made this manner of treating diseases more widely accepted by people,” said Dr. Arvin Faundo, Cordlife Philippines Medical Director. “Currently, umbilical cord blood transplant is considered as one of the standard forms of treatments for leukemia, among others. Also, many clinical trials4, 5 worldwide are ongoing for which the results are encouraging. In fact, Duke Medicine is studying the use of umbilical cord blood stem cells6 to treat autism and related brain disorders. While the trials are still in the initial phases, we are hopeful that these will yield positive results.”

Last June, Duke Medicine received USD 15 million funding by Atlanta-based Marcus Foundation. Apart from treating patients based in the United States, Duke Medicine has also opened its door for possible participants from outside of the country provided they meet the inclusion and exclusion criteria7 to be considered, patients must be aged between 24 months and 72 months old. The patient would also need to travel at least three times to Duke Medicine in the United States – at the infusion, the six- and 12-month follow up stages. A stipend worth U$1,000 will likewise be provided to the trial participant per trip to help defray travel expenses.

When popular reporter, Niña Corpuz, decided to bank with Cordlife, she knew it was an investment in her baby’s and her family’s future.  Like any mom, Niña wants to give her baby the best that life has to offer and her baby’s long-term health and well-being was the primary reason for her to consider banking her baby’s cord blood and cord lining.

“Having my child was the most fulfilling moment of my life.  I never thought I’d be capable of so much love and sacrifice until I gave birth to my wonderful kids.” said Corpuz.  “Every day is just a joy and as early as now, I think of the many things my child and I will do, experience, and share.  I invested in my baby’s cord blood and cord lining because I want to be sure that my baby is given the best investment I could ever give.”

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Today, Cordlife has served over 3,000 families in the Philippines alone and is trusted by 100,000 parents8 worldwide.

“We are definitely seeing a growing acceptance and openness of the Filipino market to the idea of umbilical cord lining and cord blood banking because I believe that the parents are now more proactive in finding better means to complete their family’s health protection plan.” said Michael Arnonobal, Cordlife Philippines Managing Director. “More importantly, today’s mothers see investing in their children and families as paramount to ensuring their legacy and their well-being.”

For more information, download Cordlife’s free infopack @ www.cordlife.ph or call (02) 3321888 to know how you can invest in your children’s future.

References:

http://chd1.doh.gov.ph/files/PDFs/health%20advisories/disease%20and%20health%20condition%20advisories/cancer_children.pdf. Accessed on 10 September 2014
 http://www.philstar.com/headlines/2014/04/10/1310840/number-people-autism-increasing,   Accessed on 8 July 2014
http://www.bloodjournal.org/content/122/4/491.full?sso-checked=true Accessed on 10 September 2014
http://www.cordlife.ph/en/treatable-diseases . Accessed on 10 September 2014
http://www.cordlife.ph/en/treatable-diseasesAccessed on 10 September 2014
 http://corporate.dukemedicine.org/news_and_publications/news_office/news/15-million-award-to-go-toward-exploring-new-treatments-for-autism-other-brain-disorders, Accessed on 1 July 2014
http://clinicaltrials.gov/ct2/show/NCT02176317?term=autism+and+cord+blood&rank=1, Accessed on 4 July 2014
As of December 2012, based on consolidated figures of Cordlife Group Limited and its associates.
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Baby Expo: Life Schooling and Parenting Advice

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The successful Baby Expo 2013 featured 2 moms who shared their parenting advice. Get a sneak peek at what you can expect at Baby Expo 2014.

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Life Schooling and Parenting Advice by Gladys Reyes and Thammie Sy

“The most important thing you should do is be there whenever your children need you the most,” shared Gladys Reyes on what she learned as a mom.

At the Baby & Family Expo Philippines, organized by Mediacom Solutions, Inc., MTRCB board member, celebrity, entrepreneur and hands-on mom Gladys Reyes told the expo attendees that as soon as a woman enters the phase of motherhood, she’ll learn what unconditional love truly means. Reyes, a mother of three, said that there may come a time when one will feel guilty about not being home for hours to closely monitor the kids. But she emphasized that parents need not to choose between being a career person and a parent.

Celebrity Mom Gladys Reyes shares her personal stories during the Baby and Family Expo PH 2013

Celebrity Mom Gladys Reyes shares her personal stories during the Baby and Family Expo PH 2013

The key is very simple: Give your kids the quality time they need. “It’s not about how long the hours are, it’s rather the quality you give to that allotted time,” she said.

With the advent of social networking, a parent’s attention can also be easily diverted. You may be physically present, but your attention is elsewhere, which makes it just the same when you’re not around.

ThammieSy, a proud mom who runs a famous mommy blog, promotes home schooling and good parenting. Instead of home schooling though, she prefers to call it “life schooling” because from the moment the child is born until he grows up, it is the mom’s duty to educate him about life. She also talked about the importance of setting goals.

Momblogger Thammie Sy engages the crowd on her topic about Homeschooling

Momblogger Thammie Sy engages the crowd on her topic about Homeschooling

According to her, it is important to guide your children to the path of being good and responsible citizens. It is also crucial to ask yourself the “Why?”. Answering this will give you purpose and will give you a strong foundation to reach your goals. Sy also advised, “Instead of them entering our world, let’s enter theirs” she said. Every kid has their own personality and learning styles. So it is vital for every parent to respect their kid’s learning styles and let them grow with a strong sense of self.

With the right knowledge and trustworthy people to back you up, parenting will be much more rewarding than what you ever imagined.

To learn more about parenting and life schooling, register at www.babyexpo.ph

to get FREE access to the 2nd BABY & FAMILY EXPO PHILIPPINES 2014 happening on August 01-03, 2014 at the World Trade Center Manila, where expecting parents, parents and family members can learn the latest trends on pregnancy, babies, children and parenting, as well as explore innovative pregnancy, babies, children, parenting and family products and services from over 300 local and international exhibitors that would make Filipino families’ lives easier,

For current updates, go to www.facebook.com/babyexpoph, Twitter:@BabyExpoPh, Instagram: @BabyAndFamilyExpoPH. For booth booking and sponsorship opportunities, call +63.2.509.4792, +63.927.742.3338 or email at info@babyexpo.ph

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