This is going to sound either really sad or inspiring but when I feel down I like watching scenes from movies that help me feel the things I thought I used to feel when I was still married. Okay, I guess it sounds sadder than I thought. Growing up on movies, American ones in particular it became a way for me to cope, identify and accept things. Odd, isn’t it? I could explain so many things but what it comes down to is I don’t open myself up deeply to many people, hardly if at all and I watch movies to feel better. So, what can women like us do? Well, here are 9 movies for separated moms that I think you’ll enjoy. In particular cry, laugh and relate to.
Good news! Some of these movies are on iFlix and Netflix (I’d die without these 2 streaming sites!).
Any Meryl Streep starrer is bound to be great right? Throw in Alec Baldwin and Steve Martin and it’s a classic! This is one of things that worries me, to be oldER and be alone. My kids are all grown up and yes, I have time for myself (finally!) but to sleep alone and not have anyone to turn to when there’s something funny on TV or ask when I’m curious about something… My friends tell me all in good time but who knows!
When attending their son’s college graduation, a couple reignite the spark in their relationship. But the complicated fact is they’re divorced and he’s remarried. -IMDb
Takeaway: How can you not enjoy when the tables are turned? Your husband cheats on you marries the woman and then has an affair with you. That’s a lot to wrap your head around. It’s revenge that’s bittersweet. For all the loyalty I gave my husband I sometimes I wish I wasn’t so faithful especially when you find out he was never the same to you.
Under the Tuscan Sun
You might think, oh great another movie about a woman’s self discovery but it’s so much more than that. Watching this movie, you learn about acceptance, the not so happily ever after and maybe at the end of it you look in the mirror and ask yourself, what do “I” want. Diane Lane (Frances) took a leap and relocates to Tuscany for a life in the unknown. I imagine all of us want that at one point or another. We just wake up and accept we can’t but why not in the future? That’s what I tell myself at least.
A writer impulsively buys a villa in Tuscany in order to change her life.- IMDb
Takeaway: Now if there’s a movie that I hope my life would end up like it’s this. You might think but she’s far away from family and doesn’t even get the guy. First of all, Italy is my dream destination. Second, I’d given my youth to my marriage and my kids that I think in the future even if I end up alone I’ll be at peace with a chance to live for myself. My son asked me what I wanted when he was working and I said a trip to Italy! He replied, okay I’ll get you a one way ticket. My answer? I’ll take it! I’d love to see my children everyday for the rest of my life but there’s a little part of me that wants to go off on an adventure all by my lonesome.
First Wives Club
If you’re looking for a comedy to ease the pain this might help. Starring 3 of Hollywood’s funniest and iconic women, Diane Keaton (Annie), Bette Midler (Brenda) and Goldie Hawn (Elise), it’s an outrageous yet inspiring kick in the ass movie for women who are just fed up playing second fiddle to the men in their lives and replacing them with younger women at that.
“After years of helping their hubbies climb the ladder of success, three wives have been dumped for newer, curvier models. But the trio is determined to turn their pain into gain. They come up with a cleverly devious plan to hit their exes where it really hurts – in the wallet! Sit back and watch the sparks fly as The Wives get mad, get even and get it all. Justice has seldom been so sweet. Or so much fun.” -IMDb
Takeaway: I loved the friendship of these 3 women. Sometimes the only way to get over a man is help from your girlfriends. I have so many of those that I was able to handle my separation a little better. Now if I could only do what Elise did and make him cough up some child support!
Crazy, Stupid, Love
There is one particular scene I can watch over and over from this movie. Yes, it’s the bar scene! I love the spontaneity and of course Ryan Gosling and Emma Watson’s chemistry. But we’re not here for that! Julianne Moore (Emily) and Steve Carell (Cal) have separated and it wasn’t because of infidelity on Steve’s part but Julianne’s.
A middle-aged husband’s life changes dramatically when his wife asks him for a divorce. He seeks to rediscover his manhood with the help of a newfound friend, Jacob, learning to pick up girls at bars. -IMDb
Takeaway: I like the fact that childhood sweethearts can still remain so even after infidelity. Maybe we can still meet a Cal? After of course he’d gotten over the whole revenge thing. We can hope can’t we?
The Story of Us
This movie used to inspire me to persevere in my marriage. I held on to the thought that in the end we would always go back to each other because of love. In the movie Bruce Willis (Ben) and Michelle Pfeiffer (Katie) do. In real life? Not so much.
Two jilted lovers spend fifteen years of marriage together, only to find that they might no longer love each other. In this time they have two children and go through the various (dramatic and comical) events that take place in an average marriage.- IMDb
Takeaway: There are so many takeaways from this movie. Women can’t make love if they are frustrated, angry or disappointed. Like Rita Wilson’s character says it’s like a flower that won’t open. Infidelity includes sharing intimate details with another man/women. Like Katie says “Once you establish *anything* truly intimate with another person – even *talking* – it has to affect the person you’re supposed to be the most intimate with.”
The saddest line and truth of all? “I think the loudest silences are the ones filled with everything that’s been said, said wrong, said 300 times. Until fighting becomes the condition rather than the exception. And suddenly without even knowing it, it becomes the language of the relationship and your only option is a silent retreat to neutral corners.”
For a fun night and a raunchy one at that then you gotta watch Bad Moms. Mila Kunis (Amy), Kathryn Hahn (Carla), and Kristin Bell (Kiki) go on a wild and very un-mom like adventure in this flick. Sometimes I feel like we are the most under appreciated beings on the planet. We give and give and give to everyone except ourselves. Yes, this is a RANT.
When three overworked and under-appreciated moms are pushed beyond their limits, they ditch their conventional responsibilities for a jolt of long overdue freedom, fun, and comedic self-indulgence.- IMDb
Takeaway: Honestly? Please let me enjoy a Jessie at least once before I die! Kidding aside (NO, I’m NOT kidding), I think we moms have to enjoy ourselves a little more. Free our selves from the daily grind. Let loose and see what happens. There’s plenty of that in this movie!
My kids are the best children on earth, don’t get me wrong but do I feel overworked, under appreciated and frustrated. Resounding YES. I guess it’s a natural progression of mothers and their children. The time will come when my children will become adults and they will have to give, give, give. Hopefully, they look back on their mom and think I’ll hang in there like she did.
Something’s Gotta Give
Who doesn’t love this movie?! Jack Nicholson (Harry) and Diane Keaton (Erica) find each other late in life and it’s a hopeful take on eventually ending up with the right person for you. This movie makes you ask yourself though “the one I love or the one who loves me”? It used to be “the one I love” for me and maybe that’s why I stuck out my marriage as long as I did. Now? I’d like to have someone who loves me please.
A swinger on the cusp of being a senior citizen with a taste for young women falls in love with an accomplished woman closer to his age.- IMDb
Okay, it might seem like I’m turning into some kind of middle aged woman looking for a young romance. I’m not (maybe, just a little bit- JUST KIDDING!). Where are these men like Keanu Reeves’ character? Seriously, where do you go to find a man that appreciates you for who you are, exactly who your are, look at you in awe and love you. Time will tell, I guess.
Now, I’ve given you some pretty damn good movies for separated moms. Turn up the TV and have that delicious bucket of butter (YES, butter) popcorn handy and settle in.