Sometimes you learn things not by what’s taught directly to you but by what you witness and observe around you. At least that the case for me. I picked up life lessons from my mom the hard way. Unfortunately, I had to witness my mom struggle and try to raise 2 kids on her own and at one point with very little money. It was a huge eyeopener for me.I guess when you look at it, it’s made me a better mother (hopefully!) and has made me stronger so that I can endure my own hardships and challenges.
This post is a tribute to my mom who tried her best to do what she could for her kids. As you can see she was very beautiful and sexy to boot. She married in her early 20’s and though she had a flourishing career ahead of her she decided to become a stay at home mom. Her very complicated and painful past led her to that decision and I’m thankful for it. On the other hand, I would have wished for her to be a stronger more independent woman but life is funny that way, I guess. I became that woman and it was with the help and lessons learned from my mom.
This is my favorite shot of my mom. I think I was only 4 or 5 years old at the time this picture was taken. This was before we took off for the States and our lives changed.
Who knows where this is? Hint: It’s in Quezon City and used to be a popular place to visit.
Ever since I could remember it was always just the 3 of us. My dad was always gone. He was in the Navy and off on a boat every 6 months or so. I hardly saw him.
My mom baked the most delicious cakes and pies. I regret not taking advantage of her baked goodies that she’d always have ready for us when we got home from school. That cake of hers in the picture below can rival even the best of them when it came to taste. Design…probably needed a lot of work but we devoured that cake and it didn’t really matter.
This is another shot that I love. She seems lost in her thoughts amidst the crowd in Disneyland circa late 1980’s.
You know how when you were younger you were always irritated at your mom and took her for granted? Well, it catches up with you. So many things were realized when I became a mom myself. Here’s what I learned:
Life Lesson 1: Leave something for yourself
My mom had dedicated her life to me and my brother leaving nothing for herself. She didn’t pursue her own interests in fear that it would interrupt whatever we had going on. I decided to pursue blogging because I like writing and wanted something for myself. Though I don’t get to write as often as I’d like I’m happy to be able to do it whenever I get the chance.
Life Lesson 2: Have the means to financially support yourself even if your husband is already supporting your family
My mom’s decision to be a stay at home meant becoming financially dependent on my dad. It didn’t turn out well for us. I opted to work so I can be financially independent come what may.
Life Lesson 3: Keep track of your documents!
I think a part of the issue here was trust and that’s why my mom didn’t focus on our documents. To say the least I advise moms to keep copies of all important documents and to hold the originals whenever possible. I’m a stickler when it comes to document management.
Life Lesson 4: Learn to let go
I think as my brother and I got older, my mom started to feel the loneliness. She held on to us very tightly and literally I was the kind of woman that went from my mom to my husband. I have never experienced the single life (not that I want to mind you) but I realize that I need to loosen the reins when it comes to my own kids. I don’t want to hold them back and I always tell them that as soon as they’re ready and financially prepared after they’ve finished their schooling they can go off and lead their own lives. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Someday, I might be able to share the reasons behind these life lessons but as it is I’ve already gotten quite personal. It’s tough to give back to your mom when you’re trying to keep up with your own family’s needs but what I like about my mom is she appreciates the small things like when I treat her out or bring her food and things she’ll like. We enjoy good conversations and sometimes reminisce or just talk about anything under the sun.
My mom has her quirks and we have so many inside jokes. If there’s one thing I always kid her about it’s how she always keeps all those plastics, plastic spoons and forks, and containers. She always seems to have a use for them and surely enough when we’re out and you ask her for a rubber band or piece of tape she always has it. She’s pretty proud of the fact that she’s a girl scout and she actually was. Neat trivia: Josefa Llanes Escoda, founder of the Girl Scouts of the Philippines is a distant relative of my mom. That’s where she probably got it!
Lately, we’ve been on a Jollibee binge. I love their Big Burger Steak and my mom loves their chicken which is timely since Jollibee Chicken is having a price rollback just in time for Mother’s Day . If you’re anything like me, always on the lookout for deals and discounts here’s one for you.
– 1-piece Chickenjoy with Jolly Spaghetti SOLO – from P117, now P99 – P18 in savings
-1-piece Chickenjoy with Jolly Spaghetti Value Meal – from P122, now P109, P13 in savings
So if you’re looking to spend some quality time with your mom and having an affordable meal while you’re at it Jollibee’s your best bet. Remember to take some time and spend it with your mom.